The child in the third year of life sometimes gives great tests to parents. He grew up, began to speak, actively communicates. But suddenly he begins to call on, instead of removing toys - he pretended to be sleeping, refusing to walk and so on. Psychologists call this a "crisis of the age of three." It is not necessary to panic, it will pass. The child begins to realize that he is a person, understands his characteristics and desires. That is why we can often hear that raising a child at 3 years old is the struggle of parents with stubbornness and negativity. And partly it is true.
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"Minor Negativist"
Negativism is a characteristic feature of the crisis. He manifests itself to the requests of the adult and his person. Moreover, quite often negativism manifests itself only to one family member, then when the rest he obeys perfectly. This feature is also manifested by the fact that the child makes parents fulfill his requirements, thereby showing his power.
The upbringing of a three-year-old baby proceeds in different ways. Some parents themselves become irritable and try to put a young dictator in place, using physical and overwhelming methods. In another family, they completely obey him - if only he would not ache and lagged behind his parents. The golden middle is the most correct tactics of parental education, which consists in the following tips and recommendations:
- You need to be patient and evaluate each individual situation as sober as possible. The baby needs to be understood, and his whims are used against himself. If the child scatter the toys in response to the request to remove them, ask him to never remove the toys. Bans, requirements and whims are ineffective, you need to distract children's attention to another, more interesting for him.
- The attacks of children's hysteria must be calmly responded, in no case do not indulge them. Otherwise, the child will understand that there is an answer to his actions and such behavior will become a habit. You can distract the attention of the Isterian child to the toy.
- The upbringing of a child at 3 years should be synchronous: dad should not allow what mom forbade, and vice versa. Therefore, it is very important to establish common rules for all (including grandparents!). If you can’t jump on the couch, then you can’t on all days, without exception.
- You need to raise a child in love, he must always sincerely praise for the right actions. And if the baby acted incorrectly, he needs to explain in detail why this should not be done, but in no case do not brush himself.
"Male education"
The boy at the age of three should be proud that he is a man. The child should know that he is brave, strong and kind, but in no case a coward and a weakness. However, quarrels and fights cannot be indulged. The boy imitates his father and must feel good with the dad. And mom should understand this and give men the opportunity to spend more time together. Boys need to provide more space, as they are more active. On the street, with the child, you need to run, climb, play outdoor games. The boy at the age of three needs to provide more independence (with constant unobtrusive control). Mom should teach the baby to open the door, help carry a bag and perform other simple tasks.
"Three -year -old princesses"
Girls develop faster, their feelings and emotions are expressed more acutely. Managing girls is easier, but their cunning should be taken into account. An ideal for a girl is a mother, along with her they find a common language - from discussing puppet outfits to jewelry, baking and flowing flowers. The father must have a positive impact on the communication of his daughter in male society. It is necessary to constantly monitor the desires and capabilities of the daughter, to contribute to their maximum development.
The future of their children, their character and attitude to the environment depends on the parents. And if you do not start the correct upbringing of three years, then you can ruin your child completely and irrevocably.