Education of children in the family should not have a monotonal character. Children are important to help not only physically grow up, but also become thinking and quite responsible adults. Parents have every chance of achieving this, without living in the horror movie lasting in 18 years. The most important thing is that almost all psychologists and experts stand out in the education of children in the family - this is upbringing with love and logic. Only so you can make your children responsible for your actions. This is mutually beneficial philosophy for both sides.
Parents in this case won, because their love is healthy, and they establish sound control over the actions of children without anger and threats, which later will be more likely to be known about themselves due to dismissed behavior in the adolescence. The Devora wins, because sincerely, there is a sense of tact with the outside world and vital wisdom in solving their problems. Thus, they produce skills that will help them later cope with the real world. The trust relationship between children and their parents is the basis of joyful painless education.
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Problems in family education
Unfortunately, many guys reaching adolescent years have no idea how to make decisions. They know perfectly well, which is not worth it, but still can not resist from harmful and dangerous habits, games, actions. Why are young people sometimes so stupid destroy themselves? The tragic truth is that many of these stupid elections are the first independent decisions. As a child, the decision for them was accepted only by their parents. Probably, adolescents who make the wrong choice are the same children who have not learned to stay away from the plate with cookies. Contrary to public opinion, many of the worst children (the most audacious and switched) often from families where they are fond of them.
Some parents believe that love is the rotation of their own life around the children, they are infinitely brought to school forgotten lunches, as soon as their children gate the SOS signal, such parents seek instantly to protect their fers from friends, teachers, and other elements that look hostile. Such children later find themselves not prepared for adulthood, because their raising moments were stolen from them in the name of love.
Education of children in the family is never unmistakable. Everyone can lead examples when parents enjoyed erroneous methods of upbringing, and their children became wonderful people. Others, it would seem, they did everything right, but they brought up children-barbarians. It is worth thinking that to educate children in the family must be sure to:
- love;
- patience;
- jointly spent time for the games;
- conversations for the child you are interested in;
- with explanations of incomprehensible phenomena.
But it is also important to give children the opportunity to independently solve some of the difficult questions for them, which in the future will be useful.
The most common upbringing error
Most of the parents make up the education of children in the family, based on internal reactions. In fact, the internal reactions of adults are the result of answers from childhood on family emotions and interactions. Therefore, the inner flair is more reliable if adults had a happy childhood and at present peaceful and good relationships in the house.
On the other hand, if parents react to their children, saying: "I definitely do not want to raise them as my parents came with me," then the inner reactions may be unreliable, but this is not a dogma. The main thing is to know the boundaries of their parental love, which would help in the future to survive his own chad, and did not overthrow his entire horizon. For parents, it means that they must allow failures and help their children become better in the period of younger school age. After all, they say if you want to raise a loser - help him in every little thing and allow him everything he wants.