There are practically everywhere about sexual relationship today. It is often difficult for parents to find a common approach to the sexual development and raising children. Blurry and stuff when discussing such a topic is not necessary. On the contrary, it is better to explain itselves where the baby or his youngest sister appeared where to wait for, when someone else will tell him in kindergarten or in the menelney. Without a doubt, for the first time such a conversation began to start very difficult, but it needs to be done. Moreover, sexual education of children has features for each age.
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What can be said to a three-year-old child?
"How did I come from?" - Traditional question at this age. With an answer to it and you can start the sexual education of children. It is not necessary to leave the answer. It is best to beat the situation. For example, you can compose a fabulous story, the final of which will be the birth of a small prince or princess.
We talk about sex with five-year children
Here you already need to explain to the child, how exactly he got into the mother's tummy. Explain to the child that his parents love to each other so much that Pope gave his mother to his part, which was connected with her mother's, two halves became one whole, and the baby appeared. In case the child continues to ask, it is best to explain to him that it is so established in the world, and children are born as a result of love.
The same answer can be given to the child if he sees on the street or in the zoo of copulating dogs and other animals. Thus, in his mind, the appearance of offspring will be associated with love. On the "technical" moments to sharpen attention is not necessary. But another extreme, like "children buy in the store," at this age is not needed, it will only make a confusion in the core brain.
Sexual education of seven-eight-year-old child
Current children develop much faster than their parents. Many eight-nine-year-old girls have a menstruation. Therefore, sexual education of children at this age is to prepare for changes that will be in their body - gradual, neat. Well, if the father will talk about pollutions and age breaking the voice. If the mother brings up the son alone, you need to explain the boy that it is normal, and happens with all the boys. Many children perceive the changes with their bodies like something shameful, so you need to teach to reconcile with it and do not be shy. At this age, you can already talk about sex from the technical side.
Child, of course, not to protect the "street erotic folklore" and vulgar chastushki on this topic. No need to yell on a child, to threaten all sorts of punishes - it will cause a reverse reaction. Let him understand that you absolutely do not like it, and sex can be described with words beautiful and affectionate, and not inhabitant.
We talk about sex with older children
At this age, the child wants to learn more and more about all the sides of sex, it will begin to be interested in various kinds of sexual deviations. Parents need, firstly, buy a child appropriate qualitative literature, secondly, to "pull up" their knowledge on this topic, and thirdly, do not shove their own gaps in this area.
Consider several important points of sexual education:
- The conversation about sex should not be long.
- No need to scold a child when he will ask the question "about it." Answers, like "grow-you will find out", "Now you will receive from me for such nasty", etc. are unacceptable.
- No need to blush, giggle and build a mustache so that the child does not think that this is a question - shame. This will lead to the fact that the child will clict in himself.
- Excessive wise and mentor tone in a conversation about sex is also unacceptable.
And one more important rule: no need to bring the conversation to the reverse extremes - do not make a cult from sex.