Increasingly, you can hear the phrase from young parents that their child is an egoist. But uttering these words, everyone lays its meaning in them. Some parents talk about egoism, without understanding what it really is. Others understand, but are proud of what is happening, and the third, understanding the complexity of the situation, they simply do not know how to fix it. So what is this children's egoism? Where does it scream? And how to deal with him? And it can better discard all attempts, and be it?
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Signs and consequences of child egoism
First of all, before asserting that the child grows by the egoist, it is necessary to know exactly what it is. After all, if he did not give another child a toy for a couple of times or asked what he was forbidden, with hysterics, it still does not mean that he grows by a egoist.
The egoist can be called a person who thinks only about himself and its needs. Such a person does not know how to empathize, and it doesn't matter what is happening around. From here we can conclude that a small little man up to 3-4 years is still not very sensitive in what egoism is. He probably loves mom, dad, grandmother and loved ones, but how will they bring up in the future - this is the task of parents.
Often there are parents who are specially growing egoist. They are convinced that in modern times they simply just do not survive. In such a situation, it is worth thinking about: a person that since childhood does not know anything in anything, in the future will not be able to get the desired for the reason that he simply does not know how to achieve it. In addition, communication with people of egoists in society comes down to a minimum. So before briefing the egoist, it is worth looking into the future and think, and whether it deserves it.
What is worth and what you should not do when educating the egoist
To know how to educate the child of Egoist to parents, first of all, it is necessary to memorize the most common mistakes that they admit close to the raising of children, after which selfishness is formed.
- The imposition of their own desires, after which the child is strongly reduced by the interest of everything that happens and in general to life.
- Praise the child must be normalized. Permanent capture will lead to the fact that the baby will think that he is the most, and everyone surrounding is nothing.
- The child does nothing alone. Even the collection of toys is produced by adults.
- Any wishes are satisfied, hearing at least hysteria.
- Refuse to communicate with peers.
What to do when children's egoism is already manifested?
- Break into yourself the habit of answering the hysterics of the baby. Explain to the child that does not always go out to do what he asks. After several such hysterics, the kid will understand that the whims do not help.
- Acquire a child to independence. Collecting his toys or garbage, that he scattered, should occur with the baby.
- The child must be aware that the misdemeanor should be punished.
- Giving a child the opportunity to independently make serious decisions. It can be a choice of clothes in kindergarten or making a menu for dinner (but not just for him, but for the whole family).
- Constantly explain to the child that you need to share toys with other kids, not offending them.
- In a conversation with the baby, questions about the bottom should sound not solely for him, but also for other kids.
- Push a moral child to good actions. For example, share candy, visit your grandmother or help her by buying products, etc.
- Empathy. A very important feeling that kids learn very quickly and willingly: for example, regret close people due to the fact that the leg hurts, handle or back.
About how to educate the child of the egoist, no need to know. Adhering to these simple rules, after a couple of weeks later, the result will be visible. And the parents can only wish for patience.