The main task of parents is to correctly educate their children. After all, it is from education that depends on how the child becomes, what will his character be he, as he will relate to parents and others. With the age of a child, it is harder to raise it, it is much more difficult to calm, and here not to avoid parental mistakes, the main of which is the use of physical strength. Methods of education of children are extremely important: thanks to them, a new full-fledged person is formed.
Often parents when choosing the methods of education of children choose their methods close to their mentality - democratic, connivors or vice versa, authoritarian. Moreover, the methods of education of children can be in the root of incorrect, and therefore their application will lead to the fact that the child will grow either as compiled, or vice versa, loose.
Basic methods of education of children
Select 7 basic methods of education of children:
- Conviction and communication. This method is suitable for children at home and variekter. In a specific situation, the father or mother explains the child what needs to be done to jointly solve the problem or question. The conversation must be calm, leisurely. Even the baby will listen to such an intonation of the parents, and he will understand what they want to convey to him parents.
- Positive reinforcement. This method of education of children is that the actions of the parents are then followed by a child or his any action. Positive reinforcements are gifts, praise, encouragement. Negative reinforcement - a ban on something, punishment. This education method is the most favorable for children. If the child did not succeed, parents should show that not everything is so bad. If the baby did something good, he should get encouragement and praise. If necessary, punish the child, he should clarify why it is he who is punished. You can give the child time to think about a done act - put it in an angle or put on a chair. The punishment can be a ban on watching a favorite cartoon, ban on the game with a favorite toy.
- The method of "carrot and stick". Promotion follows the good deeds and punishment - for the poor. Parents forget about it does not have to.
- child-rearing practices, "one-two-three!". It is applicable when the child needs to be stopped, when he shows disobedience. Child to make comments and count to three. If the baby does not stop, should be punished. Mom or Dad need to stay calm, take it slowly, so that the child had time to think. If he does not obey, it is necessary to punish him.
- Method "vice versa." This method of education for children who are all unhappy, and all oppose. For example, if a mother tells her son: "Put on a sweater, it's cold outside," and he - in any, then you can say, "Come on, son, go outside without a sweater." Then, out of a sense of contradiction puts the ill-fated son sweater and hurry out for a walk with their parents.
- The use of physical force. This is not the best method of raising children, it is able to break the children's fragile psyche, can have a very negative impact on the future development of the child. Child psychologists recommend that parents not to resort to this method, you should always try to solve the problem without the use of physical force, by talking with the child, convince him.
- The method of "zero reaction". In this case, the parents do not show any reaction when the child behaves unacceptably. This method gives the child an opportunity to reflect on their behavior, and does not cause adverse reactions. But should it be used in conjunction with other methods of adjusting behavior - positive reinforcement, conversation.
The main thing in the upbringing of children - love and respect for them. A method must be chosen such to fit both children and parents. And the father and mother must be united in this difficult matter.