Most parents want to see their children healthy, smart and happy. Their task is to give their children if possible all the best. In practice, there are often such mistakes in raising children, as excessive care and guardianship, become an obstacle to the development of independence of children, do not accustom them to responsibility for their actions and do not form leadership qualities that will be useful in the future.
What are the most common parent mistakes in raising children?
There are a number of the most "popular" and common mistakes that parents make, raising their children:
- Excessive care. The modern world is very dangerous and risky. But in pursuit of the well-being of their children, many parents surround the child with excessive care. Children must also break the knees, and fall, feel offended and failure. All this is a normal phenomenon. The child must learn, and what is the bitterness of parting with loved ones, and what is the feeling of first love - all this forms its emotional maturity. Otherwise, avoid an underestimated self-esteem or vice versa, arrogance and snobism, will not succeed.
- Lack of independence in decision making. Today's parents often solve all the problems arising from their children, immediately come to the rescue, absolutely not giving a child of time and the ability to take an independent decision. As a result, the child gets used to that if something goes wrong, parents immediately fix the situation. In reality, everything happens quite differently, and therefore children can grow absolutely discontent and incompetent.
- Excess parental delight. For parents, the usual thing is to speak to her childcare that he is the most beautiful and smartest. It does not always help to develop a sense of self-esteem in the child, often the only people who consider their child ingenious are parents. The result of this parent mistake is the doubt of the child, or whether parents are right in their judgments. And if the parents "do not notice" the poor behavior of the child, he begins to lie, fenced to avoid difficulties in life.
- Feeling of parental guilt. Parents should be able to say "no" to children, should not unnecessarily pamper. Children should understand that only the right actions lead to success.
- Parents do not share with children their life experience. Sooner or later, the child grows and wants to live independently. Parents must tell children about what mistakes they commit at that age so that the children be prepared for the consequences of incorrect decision-making, how to get out of a difficult situation, how to build relationships with others.
- Not always the mind is a sign of a child's maturity. The capable child is not always ready for adult independent life, albeit talented in many areas.
- Lack of a proper parental example. Another common mistake in the education of children is that parents do not give him a good example of their behavior and lifestyle. A child since childhood should know that his father is always responsible for his words. Even the most innocent lie is a bad example of parental behavior. The child should see the parents of kind and responsive to other people, then he will grow sensitive and ready to help a person.
Why do parents often make mistakes in raising children? Many psychologists believe that parents because of the unnecessary fear overly take their children, and also consider their parental duty to give their own kids all that they did not receive in their childhood. Good parents should not only take all the best of the present, but also think about the bottom of tomorrow.