In this article, we will consider for someone a joyful, exciting issue of pregnancy for others. Namely, we will tell you how to tell parents about an interesting situation.
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Pregnancy is always an exciting moment not only for mom and dad, but also for loved ones. And situations in life are formed in different subjects, which further adds experiences to an interesting position. And for some reason, to inform the joyful news is scary to parents. Therefore, in this material we will consider when and how to tell parents about pregnancy. We will also help with original options for submitting such news.
How to tell my parents that I am pregnant: a planned pregnancy
If you are an adult girl, you have a husband or at least a serious relationship, then saying such news is not so scary. No, there will always be experiences around such an event. But all this is normal and even pleasant.
- When the couple tries to conceive a child for a long time, I want to inform the news immediately after the test result. After all, this event will be the joyful news for everyone. But first check the reliability of the information and make sure that nothing threatens the baby.
- There is a situation when their parents themselves want grandchildren, and the young people could not decide on this step. In this case, present them with the pleasant news in the original way. But we’ll talk about this a little later, sharing some unusual and interesting ideas.
Tell parents about pregnancy is always exciting
- It happens that the pregnancy of a married couple is random. Perhaps you or your chosen one still study at the institute, or have not found a decent job, or copy for an apartment and repair. In general, some kind of “not time” most often acts as fear.
- Remember that parents will not only perceive such news well, but also support the young people as much as possible. After all, everyone went through this. Therefore, tell me about pregnancy at a family dinner, having dismantled an approximate plan of action for the future.
- It happens that you have both a husband and their housing, but parents are not too satisfied with your choice. Then it is worth reading the information below, where some recommendations on the message of such an important news will be given.
A child is happiness
- By the way, if you and your parents are in a quarrel, then often such news destroys all the walls and helps to establish contacts. If this does not happen during pregnancy, then even the thickest ice thaws with the birth of the baby.
How to say about pregnancy to parents of a teenager?
Be sure to visit a doctor! If you trust and can count on your mother, then you did not try to find a solution on the Internet. When the situation goes beyond the traditional concept, and it is difficult for parents to reveal themselves, take the situation into their own hands. But only for a while! The sooner you inform your parents, the easier it will become for you, and they will not react so painfully. After all, such situations directly reflect the relationship between you!
- Select a suitable clinic and make an appointment to the doctor. You can go to the hospital at your place of residence or to a private clinic. There is even a gynecologist for adolescents, or you can even do it anonymously.
Important! According to the law (Federal Law No. 323 "On the Basics of Protection of the Health of Citizens"), if you are 15 years old, all the information is strictly confidential. That is, no one will demand the presence of parents or recognize your data to call or find a mother and tell her about you.
Not less important! According to Article 54 of the Law on the Basics of Protection of the Health of Citizens of the Russian Federation of November 22, 2011, a minor girl can have an abortion without parents!
- The first time even an adult woman is scary to go to the doctor, so it will not hurt to capture girlfriend As moral support. If the guy did not run away from the news heard, then take him with you to the clinic.
- By the way, relative to the guy. If he is ready to be with you and help you in this situation, then this is the right and best outcome under the circumstances. But you must be it is confident in it. So that it does not work out that instead of one baby you had two children.
Mom of a minor should be aware
- Do not freak out, do not be nervous and do not fall in despair! Inside you is a small man, which now depends only on you. In most cases, mom will not send her daughter to abortion, against her will. Moreover, when you share with her, you will also receive some kind of psychological support.
- If you cannot find a solution or you need psychological help, then contact a psychologist. Or arrange a person’s support, which you trust! It can be a sister or aunt, or even a grandmother. But a small recommendation, if you reveal first to another person, then show that you trust your mother to a lesser extent.
Talk about pregnancy
- If you cannot decide to talk, then try to make hints or present them in a comic form. And at the same time, look at the reaction. But a serious conversation will still not be avoided.
- As an option, you can send them a message or leave a note. So you will have time. And before your arrival, they will calm down a little. But this must be done only in extreme cases when it is usually not possible to talk calmly with parents.
When and how to start a conversation with parents: psychologists' advice
Regardless of whether the planned pregnancy or not, you need to understand yourself. Of course, there are no clear instructions and recommendations, because each case is unique in its own way. Therefore, start only from your situation.
Important! Even when it is insanely scary, you should not hide such news from parents. Believe me, these are the only people who just wish you the best. They are really ready to make any sacrifices for your good.
- Must be confident that pregnancy There is exactly, but not this is just a delay or failure . Moreover, this column refers to any situation. It is not worthwhile to be mistaken or, conversely, you should not upset. The only exception is a teenage case. Although this aspect is provided for by a stipulated option - a teenage gynecologist.
- By the way, you should not rely only on tests immediately. In most cases, a positive result will be confirmed, but the negative is often deceptive. Therefore, be sure to visit the gynecologist, and only then inform relatives.
Positive test
- Understand yourself do you want this child. Yes, an abortion is sinful and dangerous to health. Especially, young girls risk in the case of the first pregnancy. And the situation is aggravated with a negative Rhesus. But this is only your right!
ADVICE! Pregnancy is a gift of nature, which is not given to every woman. And such an event becomes the happiest day in life. Do not "chop off your shoulder! You will have the most dear and beloved little man. And all the turmoil that have now gathered near you is only a temporary condition that does not reach global proportions.
- But you must soberly assess the situation. Plan every detail. Housing, food, study or work - touch all aspects of your life. This will help give arguments to parents in defense of their decision. And remember - this is your life, your mistakes and even your right to make them!
- Build plans And when talking, share them with your parents. It will also slightly reduce the shock from the news. Yes, it often becomes a shock for parents. But this is only at first, then emotions are quiet down, and thoughts “sober up” a little.
- Try to focus on positive aspects, and under no circumstances lose confidence. In general, scroll through your head the alleged plot. After all, no one knows better than your parents react to such situations or just difficulties. You can even prepare answers to alleged questions or claims.
- Show your parents that you are an already formed personality not only with physical development, but also with your mind. Speak calmly and reasonable. You must convey that you are ready to bear responsibility for your actions! Parents should not be afraid that just another small child will appear on their neck.
- Also, there is no need to start crying, asking for forgiveness, rolling hysteria or reproaching your relatives with something. It is stupid, inappropriate and, again, a little childish. By the way, the aspect, who occasionally look at the baby, also do not let out of sight.
- Parents do not need to speak directly about this (if they have too violent and negative reaction). Although, as a rule, they themselves are not averse to understanding with their grandchildren. Therefore, do not quarrel with them at the very beginning. Try find a compromise.
Inside is a small life
- Choose the right moment! They should not have too good day, which will end with pleasant (rather shocking) news. Do not forget, and soon you yourself will understand that the children in the eyes of the parents remain the smallest angels! Therefore, for them stress, albeit pleasant, will be the very fact of your pregnancy.
- But this should not be the day when everything falls from hand, and at work a complete emergency. That is, they should be in a good mood.
- Better yet, if you take heavy artillery with you. Guy, sister, aunt or at least a girlfriend. Parents will not scold you in the presence of strangers. Or there will be, to whom to intercede for you.
- Usually a shock condition causes a stupor. The moralizing begin a little later, when the whole situation is “digested”. But parents do not go one template, therefore, they will express their experiences differently. Do not answer rudely and do not snack if you hear not quite pleasant words into the address layer. Is always keep calm and self -control.
- Relations are always easier with mom. Of course, if she is your best friend, then she is much easier to trust her. But remember - mom will support you in any situation. Even with the question of how to inform this news to the father.
- If you decide to leave the child, be prepared to defend your opinion to the end! Every day, an opinion does not need it.
- Listen and do not interrupt! Parents have always wanted, and only good will be desired to you. Therefore, it is worth listening to their opinion.
Talk to your parents as quickly as possible
- It is also worth letting them time for thought! This is a very important step and the decision in which they should take part. But remember, your parents are not the leaders of your life! After some time, they cool and make a more rational and correct decision.
- And I want to console a little. After the birth of the baby, even if the parents were against or not too happy about your position, then the baby becomes a universal favorite. And grandchildren, as a rule, love more even their children!
Possible options for events and your further actions
This does not mean that you will have exactly the same situation. But we can distinguish the main schemes of the approximate outcome of events.
- Dad nervously paces the room, but is silent. Mom sobs softly. It is important for you to support them now. Yes, you also need their support. But after such a news that it fell like a “thunder on your head”, you need to reassure them. Moreover, to do this not by phrases with condolences, but by sensible decisions.
- That is, as described above, tell us about your plans. The first thing that will interest them is the baby's dad. His reaction, his further participation and, most importantly, opportunities. Sometimes the guy does not mind becoming a father, but you can’t count on him at all.
- And now the most important thing is to let them know that you also need them. After all, they are your support and show that you trust them. Listen and listen to their opinion in this matter.
- If screams and threats in your direction have begun. Go away from the scene of the attack for a while so that everyone calms down. After be sure to calmly talk and think through every detail. Just do not leave the house, slamming the door. Give a reasonable explanation to your act and inform them about your decision. An ideal “shelter” will be the house of a guy or girlfriend for several days.
The reaction of parents to pregnancy can be different
- The attack goes on to the guy. That is, dad threatens to tear off some part of the body. The first thing you need is to calm your parents. After all, this happened to you by love and mutual agreement. By the way, the version will be very useful that his parents will also help you in every way. But do not invent it just for the sake of comfort.
- Do not give the address or phone number of the guy. At least until emotions are burned out. You can make a burning and say a lot of extra words.
- Parents insist on abortion. It was already mentioned above that you yourself must first decide whether you are ready to be a mother. Keep in mind that the first abortion may have deplorable consequences.
- If you are determined to leave your child, then do not succumb to persuasion, threats or blackmailing of your parents. But you must also understand that then you will need to leave your home and find your own home. You must also consider how to feed yourself and the baby.
- It will be difficult only for the first 2-3 years until the baby goes to the garden. And then most of the problems are solved in your own way. Remember - life does not end with the birth of the crumbs! On the contrary, she will play even brighter colors.
- Often parents against the birth of their grandson, but after some time they change their decision. Therefore, it will not hurt to wait out this period from relatives if you are tied to the house of your parents.
- And I want to give one recommendation - build a happy young family with your boyfriend. Very often, young people put up a really strong union, because they “sculpt” each other with those who have not yet formulated personalities. That is, it is easier for them to adjust and establish contact.
Do not scare the two strips on the test
- Yes, the situation worsens significantly when the guy was scared. It happens, especially at a young age. Guys are not as responsible as girls, and they need more time to grow up. There are no hopeless situations! But for this you will need parents support, especially the first 2 years.
How to tell parents about pregnancy: phrases and methods of presenting news
We bring to your attention softer phrases or methods that will not sound as shocking as “I'm pregnant”:
- Better tell them that soon someone will become a grandparent.
- Or send them sMS with the result of the test;
- You can say "I'm a little pregnant." And to the question "Why?" Reply that the term is short.
- Talk to heart to heart. And together you will decide how to report this news to the dad.
- Wait when the parents themselves guess. If you have toxicosis, then you don’t have to wait long, and you no longer need to explain to your parents either. Just do not hide anything if they are interested.
- Give such a “surprise” for some kind of holiday. You can choose any of the original methods you like, described below.
How to tell parents about pregnancy: original methods
In any case, you can give this news in a pleasant form. If you have long planned this event, then come off the usual phrase at the table. If you are in a difficult situation and are afraid to admit your parents, then all the more, take a note of some options.
- In principle, this method is quite banal, but also original at the same time. Invite or prepare a family fee. By the way, this will also emphasize your readiness for adulthood. And by the end of the meal, hand to your parents a cake that is intended for grandparents.
- Or make a gift with a kinder surge and dummy. By the way, package so that the parents do not immediately guess. And you can make a box with your own hands.
- You can take a photo of a pregnancy test or a picture from an ultrasound examination. Do not forget to pack it in a beautiful frame. Again, decorate any store frame in the necessary topic.
Tell parents about pregnancy not directly
- Come home or visit a T -shirt with the desired inscription.
- Or go differently, put chalk, salty cucumbers and cabbage on a shelf in the refrigerator. Such a picture should cause the correct course of thoughts.
- Send a telegram by mail. Today it will be an unexpected notification. Moreover, at home at the time of delivery you can not be.
- Go shopping with mom and look into the desired department with children's things or pregnant women. There will definitely not be a scandal in public, and on the way home you will have time to come up with a “plan” for dad.
- Make a selfie with your family. Only instead of the phrase “smile” or “cheese” say: “I'm pregnant!” At the same time, get their reaction captured.
- Or give your native cabbage in the slider. You can still put a pregnancy test inside.