We go to visit: what to give the owners, what to buy to visit the table, what can you take with you hotels and products? How to behave correctly: rules of conduct for children and adults

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Rules for visiting a girl, man, friends, with children. Gostinists and gifts for the owners and children.

People cannot live without communication. We meet with each other over a cup of coffee/tea not only at work, in a cafe and a restaurant, but also invite each other to visit.

Literally 100-150 years ago, the culture of walking was honored. It was regulated by a huge set of rules for different occasions.

Nowadays, many of them have lost their relevance, and a quick exchange of information often conceals the joy of an unexpected visit.

Let's talk more about the nuances of the campaign, the list of gifts and hotels to the owners and their children, as well as the significant reasons for refusal.

We go to visit: What to give the owners?


the girl brought a gift to the owners of the house where she was invited to visit

the girl brought a gift to the owners of the house where she was invited to visit

The answer depends on the indicator of close acquaintance. If you know the owners well, you can take into account their preferences and tastes when choosing a gift.

In another case, select that will find a response in your heart. For example, from such a list:

  • bread and salt
  • a bottle of good wine
  • cake and flowers
  • box of candies
  • bread maker
  • households on candy/casket with sweets and money
  • beautiful flowerpot
  • a set of bed linen
  • kitchen towels

The first 4 options are the most win -win to visit even unfamiliar people. The rest suggest close friendly or family relationships.

What to buy to visit the table, what are you to take with you hotels and products?

a beautiful table for the owners of the products that the guests brought

a beautiful table for the owners of the products that the guests brought

It so happened that a traditionally going to visit buys a bottle of worthy wine or alcohol, which he himself prefers to eat.

However, not all owners share this idea.

In order not to get into trouble, buy:

  • cake
  • candies
  • good cheese for cutting on the table
  • fruits
  • juice
  • delicious confectionery, for example, eclairs

Or bring prepared in advance dishes from the house, for example, salads, pastries, meat dishes.

At the same time, try to make them simple so that the composition is understandable and everyone who wants to try them with pleasure.

What to take from the hotels to visit a child?

a piece of home cake brought by guests for the child

a piece of home cake brought by guests for the child

Depending on the age of the child, consider hotels for him. However, do not waste large amounts. Strict minimalism is the best solution.

For example:

  • kinder Surprise
  • juice
  • baby food in banks
  • fresh fruits, for example, green apples
  • dry fruits in chocolate
  • homemade pastries

Of course, you can buy sweets too. But in a number of babies nowadays there is an allergy to sweet industrial production. Therefore, it will not be superfluous if you first specify the baby’s parents about the absence of it on food and fabric/wool.

Recall ugly presentations:

  • book
  • set for creativity
  • small toy by age

I'm going to visit with a child: what to take with me?


children visiting and their favorite toys that their parents took with them

children visiting and their favorite toys that their parents took with them

The answer to the question depends on the age of the child.

So the crumbs for several months from the family take:

  • diapers - waterproof and ordinary
  • distributes - at least 5 pcs.
  • napkins - dry and wet
  • replaceable clothes, which often gets dirty-2-3 pcs.
  • a dummy and a bottle with a mixture if you use
  • dry mixture and boiling water in thermos
  • watering chippery/juice/compote

For the baby to a year, the same plus:

  • favorite toy/book
  • shoes and pants
  • cookies, fruits, porridge that a child loves

The baby, who crossed his first birthday, may no longer need diapers. Replace them with panties.

And the mixture also remained in the past. She was replaced by food from an adult table, but without seasonings and a minimum of salt/sugar.

  • You will definitely put the designer/felt -tip pens/pencils for older children. Then they will be busy with the usual business and will give you the opportunity to chat with the owners.
  • If in the house you plan to visit with the child, there are no children, put a pot or a children's seat for a toilet in a backpack.
  • Take a new or favorite toy with which the baby will be able to play longer.

How to behave correctly: rules of conduct for children

several rules of conduct of a grown child visiting the picture

several rules of conduct of a grown child visiting the picture

The rules of conduct for babies of different ages are different. Although for preschool crumbs, they are often simply not applicable. Since they do not yet fully realize what is good and what is bad.

But still:

  • warn your child about the upcoming campaign on a visit and what he can do there,
  • get voiced several times that you can’t take anything there without demand,
  • warn that you will be nearby and are ready to help/answer any request of the child,
  • do not sit with children for a long time so that they do not get tired and return home without whims. The optimal time for visiting is up to 2 hours,
  • remind your child about the rules of conduct at the table,
  • keep calm and allow children what they are allowed at home.

Adults walking rules

smiling, raised family away

smiling, raised family away

There are 2 important parameters for going visiting:

  • these are your good acquaintances, relatives, relatives
  • unfamiliar and distant relatives with whom you rarely communicate

Let's start with the rules for the second option:

  • having received an invitation to visit, check with the hosts a convenient time for them,
  • come during or 5-10 minutes earlier,
  • if you are late, be sure to warn about it as soon as possible, by calling on the phone,
  • a visit for the duration of the duration does not exceed 10-20 minutes,
  • the business meeting at home does not drag out for an hour and longer,
  • come in the evening on weekdays and after 12-00 on weekends,
  • set down to visit on holidays, since the owners are busy cleaning and preparing for them,
  • avoid applying a visit at lunchtime,
  • come with a gift in your hands, for example, a cake, a bouquet of flowers,
  • if the hostess insists on the invitation to the table, do not persist in refusal,
  • hold for some time after the end of the meal to leave,
  • wipe your legs before entering the living room,
  • take care of the furniture of the owners - do not put an umbrella, hat, outerwear on it, and also do not tug with the back of the chair/chair/sofa, with sweat -with palms,
  • go to visit cleanly shaved, in fresh clothes, without unpleasant odor from your mouth,
  • choose a convenient outfit, unless you have a special invitation in hand with the designated theme and dress code of a home meeting,
  • take the animal to your home, he definitely has no place visiting,
  • come with an uninvited friend only if you are sure that the owners will be happy with him,
  • to visit with children go to those who also have children, or to where they will be sincerely happy,
  • always first welcome the hostess, then the owner and the rest of the guests. In the latter case, nod your head if there are no your friends among them,
  • try all the dishes offered by the owners, and praise the hostess,
  • the time of care for an evening visit is 22-23 hours. If you celebrate a wedding or New Year, it is permissible to stay until the morning,
  • upon returning home, send the owners of the SMS that you got well and thank you again for the welcoming welcome,
  • the next day, find time for a call to express your gratitude again for the cordiality of the owners and remember a couple of funny/pleasant moments of the meeting.

When making a visit to close people and friends, most rules can be omitted. Since these people are sincerely happy about you at any time.

I'm going to visit a girl: what to give?

original fruit bouquet in the hands of a girl who brought a guest

original fruit bouquet in the hands of a girl who brought a guest

Since beautiful ladies are naturally sweet, men boldly use this to please them when meeting.

Suitable:

  • sweets and cookies
  • cake and unusual pastries
  • fresh fruits and dried species

Along the way for the girl, buy:

  • a small bouquet of flowers, for example, daisies
  • small soft toy

I'm going to visit a guy, a man: what to give?

the man holds in his hands a packaged gift brought by the guest on his birthday

the man holds in his hands a packaged gift brought by the guest on his birthday

Depends on the proximity of your communication with this man. For example, if you know that he is not AC in cooking, buy pizzas on the road.

But don't bother at all. In the etiquette, gifts are presented by men to women, and not vice versa.

You are the best and best -free gift. And since you came, he will already be endlessly glad.

Exclusion - you go to the guy for a birthday. Here you can not do without a gift.

What to go to visit friends, girlfriend?


girlfriend is delighted with a small pleasant gift of the guest

girlfriend is delighted with a small pleasant gift of the guest

Use the advice from the first sections of this article. And also consider the reason for your visit.

Campaign to visit on a regular day add goodies, pastries and fruits, and tea/coffee. And in the festive - a thematic and useful gift is required.

How to refuse to visit?


the girl refuses to invite you to visit for a good reason

the girl refuses to invite you to visit for a good reason

To refuse to visit, it’s better to tell the truth. Especially relatives and very close friends.

In other cases, such reasons are suitable:

  • your illness, malaise
  • the need to look after a relative
  • lack of the opportunity to leave the child with someone
  • rush job
  • household moments, for example, planned connection to the Internet, replacing pipes in the bathroom
  • the presence of other plans if the invitation has received late

We examined the rules for visiting adults and children, as well as a list of optimal gifts and hotels for the table and for the children of the owners.

Culture and traditions change in small things. But we will definitely not stop going to visit each other.

Pleasant communication to you!

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